“If only our passion to understand others were as great as our passion to be understood. Were this so, all our apologies would be truly meaningful and healing.” — Harriet Lerner Most of us have been spending a great deal of time together. We are communicating differently than …
Do you treat yourself as a Prosecuting or a Defense Attorney?
Does this scenario sound familiar? You make a mistake. It may be small or large, but it really doesn’t matter. You, figuratively, beat yourself up. You hear yourself saying, “You idiot! You are never going to amount to anything!” Head’s up, your inner Prosecuting Attorney has arrived. A Prosecuting …
Do you procrastinate? The reasons and solutions may surprise you.
I think there’s a little procrastinator in all of us. I knew that procrastination wasn’t only about “not wanting to do the thing when I was supposed to do it.” Procrastination, Why You Do It, and What to Do About it NOW offered many different perspectives. The main thing that …
Do you spend time with a procrastinator? Here are some coping strategies.
I’ve yet to meet anyone that doesn’t admit to procrastinating now and again. For some people, procrastination pays off, and things adequately work themselves out. For others, procrastination can be highly consequential. Either way, I know that spending time with individuals who routinely procrastinate can be very stressful on …
Smack talking yourself? Your brain thinks it’s being attacked by a lion.
How many times have we spoken to ourselves like this: “I am so stupid.” “I’m fat.” “I am a mean person.” “I’m not important.” “I am a failure.” Self-criticism: the act of or capacity for criticizing one’s own faults or shortcomings We learn self-criticism early in life. Maybe …
The Spotlight Effect: Yet another opportunity we get in our own way.
Have you ever felt that someone is watching your every move? Do you think that all eyes are on you and everyone is focusing on every minor misstep you make? I can assure you with almost 100% certainty that people are not paying nearly the attention to you …
Harriet Lerner: The Nine Ingredients of a Good Apology
“If only our passion to understand others were as great as our passion to be understood. Were this so, all our apologies would be truly meaningful and healing.” — Harriet Lerner Most of us have been spending a great deal of time together. We are communicating differently than …