Harriet Lerner: The Nine Ingredients of a Good Apology

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“If only our passion to understand others were as great as our passion to be understood.  Were this so, all our apologies would be truly meaningful and healing.” — Harriet Lerner Most of us have been spending a great deal of time together. We are communicating differently than …

A successful goal connects to who you are, not what you do.

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“We start by focusing on who we wish to become.” – James Clear, Atomic Habits So often we state our goals the “I want to do . . .” format. But a more robust approach may be to state your goal in the form of “I want to …

Does your screen time reflect more Flamin’ Cheetos than Quinoa?

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The Happiness Lab podcast has been one of my favorite diversions over the last couple of months. Listening to the podcast has brought new awareness on everything from the power of meditation to the mindsets of superheroes vs. psychopaths. The podcast delivers the information with science-backed precision from a Yale …

Who do you want to be in emotional control, the thinker or the thought?

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In times of stress, emotional control can get the better of us.  What’s important to remember, however, that you, the thinker, is in charge, not the thought or emotion. My go-to suggestion about emotions is this: “Acknowledge all of your emotions, but only empower those that serve you.” You have …

Are you living on Kairos time?

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I’m curious . . . . Are there times when you don’t have a clue what time it is? Or how you spent the last two hours? And then there’s the “what day is it?” feeling. The Greeks had two ways of defining time: Chronos and Kairos. Personally, …

Are you doing the same thing over and over? Stop!

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Most of us have heard the phrase “Lather. Rinse. Repeat.” Meaning we do the same thing, the same way, over and over and over, generally with the same results. I don’t know about you but during this time of “Stay Home. Stay Safe.” I’ve found myself in the …

Are you creating productivity or producing?

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Productivity vs. producing. Is there a difference? Productivity: the quality, state, or fact of being able to generate, create, enhance, or bring forth goods and services.  Producing: to bring into existence by intellectual or creative ability.  I recently completed a six-week course on productivity. One of the first …

How to Incorporate Structured Flexibility in Times of Change

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  Sometimes what worked last year, last month, last week, or even yesterday doesn’t work anymore. Our former structures, routines, and habits have to change along with change in the situation. However, when we rely on structure to keep us moving, losing that structure can result in lost …

When Extroverts and Introverts Need to Share Space

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With this change in circumstances, many of us may be challenged with the close quarters we are now sharing.  One of the ways I’m hearing (and personally seeing) a challenge arises from this new dynamic is when Extroverts and Introverts are suddenly thrust together 24/7. In addition to …

“I wish.” “I will.” “I am.”

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Every day is filled with self-reflective thoughts. Many people have positive self-talk days and negative self-talk days. Those contradictory communications can even range from hour-to-hour, or minute to minute. The moment when enough is enough is the time to pull out all the resources. When individuals engage with …