Here are some comments (or variations thereof) I hear very frequently from my clients : “I wish I was better at turning my projects in on time. I have so much on my plate. I’m continually disappointing my boss.” (Prioritization) “I am always late meeting my friends and …
ADHD & Boundaries: What Boundaries?
I find boundaries to be one of the most powerful tools in my toolbox. I’d be sunk without them. Although I’ve witnessed boundaries being a challenge for nearly everyone, my clients with ADHD seem to struggle a bit more than most. What makes boundaries more of a challenge …
ADHD & Communication: Often Misunderstood
Communication when challenged with ADHD is tricky. I often hear the following from my clients: “I don’t know how I missed that in the e-mail. Once they pointed it out it was clear as day.” “I thought I heard them correctly, but apparently I didn’t.” “I don’t even …
You have ADHD, you are NOT your ADHD
Fortunately, by now most people are believers in the fact that ADHD exists. Finally! ADHD is not a myth or an excuse. ADHD is a neurodevelopmental disorder that affects between 4.4% (adults) and 11% of children (ADDitudemag.com). Individuals with ADHD are NOT: Unwilling to apply themselves or try …
“Remember tomorrow.”
I just finished listening to Jesse Itzler‘s book “Living with the Monks.” Although much of the book will have limited relevance in my day-to-day life, it was the final few chapters that had the most meaning to me. Specifically, Mr. Itzler’s mantra (catchphrase? tagline?) “remember tomorrow.” At first, …
I encourage you to quit.
Coconut oil. Crossfit. Electronic planners. Professional Organizations. The book Mindsight. What do all of these things have in common? They are things that other people thought I needed to do. I tried them, then I gave up. Just because it works for someone else, doesn’t mean it’s right …
Challenge: Your Activation vs Their Unexpressed Expectations
I had a tough session with a client last week. This client came to me a few months ago with typical ADHD concerns: Missing appointments because of inconsistent utilization of calendars/planners. Lack of activation on tasks. Not making transitions from one task to another. Lateness due to hyperfocus …
Body Doubling as a productivity hack
Body doubling is a powerful productivity tool that is available to nearly everyone but has proven to be an incredibly powerful tool for my clients challenged with ADHD. I’ve used body-doubling with my physical organizing clients, coaching clients, and colleagues as an accountability tool, and it works amazingly …
Maybe it’s just a different style
Is it just me or are you sometimes perplexed by how your co-workers operate? As a manager in a large corporate environment, I sometimes found myself completely confused by the actions of others and struggled to rationalize behavior that was so foreign to my own. For example: One …
Brene Brown: Trust = B.R.A.V.I.N.G.
If I could love someone I’ve never met, it would be Brene Brown. I can not appreciate enough the power of her insights. I’ve read her books. I’ve watched her TED talks on vulnerability and shame. I’ve listened to her numerous times as a podcast guest. Most recently, …