“Good to see you! Have you gained some weight?”
One of the hallmark traits of ADHD is impulsivity, manifested in actions that individuals desperately wish could be taken back. Impulsivity is the brain’s inability to engage in self-inhibiting functions before acting. We act before we think. What causes this? In an ADHD brain, there is a tenuous …
In what way backsliding can actually help you get ahead?
Backslide: “to go back to doing something bad when you have been doing something good.” I hear this frequently from my clients: “I’m really good for a while, then I stop and revert to my old ways. Why should I even bother trying again?” I get it. It …
“Frustration is a function of our expectations.”
Those are sage words from productivity guru Stephen Covey. Think back to your last big frustration. What was it about? Your friend said they’d meet you around 2:00 for coffee. You showed up at 1:55 as to not be late, they showed up at 2:15. Your expectation was 2:00 …
ADHD Challenge: Is your way of procrastinating to stay in the learning loop?
I’m a life-long learner. I am a strident consumer of information around topics that interest me. Sometimes I consume so much information that I put off implementing what I’ve learned. I recently came face-to-face with this realization during a coaching-based book group meeting. After reviewing our current book, …
What can you do to help manage your ADHD?
It’s not at all uncommon for clients to come to ADHD coaching looking for the one tip, tool, or trick that will keep their ADHD at bay. Unfortunately, it’s not that easy. ADHD manifests itself differently in each individual. What works for one may not work for another. …
Is it important? Is it urgent?
Recently, I’ve had a lot of conversations with my clients around challenges with prioritization. As the days drone on with no sense of what the new normal will be, or when it will be, time and priorities blur. I, too, have been feeling a bit guilty about the …
ADHD in the Workplace: Identify and Ask for What You Need
“Be strong enough to stand alone, smart enough to know when you need help, and brave enough to ask for it.” — allcupation.com ADHD is an American Disabilities Act-recognized disability, which would allow employees to ask for reasonable accommodations. However, most of my clients choose not to disclose their …
Harriet Lerner: The Nine Ingredients of a Good Apology
“If only our passion to understand others were as great as our passion to be understood. Were this so, all our apologies would be truly meaningful and healing.” — Harriet Lerner Most of us have been spending a great deal of time together. We are communicating differently than …