It’s not uncommon for some of my clients to exhibit strong emotions during our coaching sessions. Actually, I encourage it. Why? If there’s no emotion, it may be a sign that we don’t care. If we don’t care, it’s hard to make progress. Years ago, in my coach …
I recently started listening for the number of times the word “just” comes up in conversation. Generally, it’s nothing big, but more little things where the word “just” either demeans, diminishes, or disqualifies whatever follows. For example: “I’ve just been a mom and housewife, who would want to hire me?” …
Here are some comments (or variations thereof) I hear very frequently from my clients : “I wish I was better at turning my projects in on time. I have so much on my plate. I’m continually disappointing my boss.” (Prioritization) “I am always late meeting my friends and …
I find boundaries to be one of the most powerful tools in my toolbox. I’d be sunk without them. Although I’ve witnessed boundaries being a challenge for nearly everyone, my clients with ADHD seem to struggle a bit more than most. What makes boundaries more of a challenge …
Communication when challenged with ADHD is tricky. I often hear the following from my clients: “I don’t know how I missed that in the e-mail. Once they pointed it out it was clear as day.” “I thought I heard them correctly, but apparently I didn’t.” “I don’t even …
Fortunately, by now most people are believers in the fact that ADHD exists. Finally! ADHD is not a myth or an excuse. ADHD is a neurodevelopmental disorder that affects between 4.4% (adults) and 11% of children (ADDitudemag.com). Individuals with ADHD are NOT: Unwilling to apply themselves or try …
I just finished listening to Jesse Itzler‘s book “Living with the Monks.” Although much of the book will have limited relevance in my day-to-day life, it was the final few chapters that had the most meaning to me. Specifically, Mr. Itzler’s mantra (catchphrase? tagline?) “remember tomorrow.” At first, …
Coconut oil. Crossfit. Electronic planners. Professional Organizations. The book Mindsight. What do all of these things have in common? They are things that other people thought I needed to do. I tried them, then I gave up. Just because it works for someone else, doesn’t mean it’s right …
I had a tough session with a client last week. This client came to me a few months ago with typical ADHD concerns: Missing appointments because of inconsistent utilization of calendars/planners. Lack of activation on tasks. Not making transitions from one task to another. Lateness due to hyperfocus …
Body doubling is a powerful productivity tool that is available to nearly everyone but has proven to be an incredibly powerful tool for my clients challenged with ADHD. I’ve used body-doubling with my physical organizing clients, coaching clients, and colleagues as an accountability tool, and it works amazingly …