“I get stuff done on time at work, why can’t I get stuff done on time at home?”
“I create task lists at work, but I don’t use one at home. What’s up with that?”
“I could keep on a schedule when I was in college, but now I can’t.”
These and an assortment of similar comments come up frequently with my clients. They can do some tasks well in one environment, but not in others.
The question I ask back is: “What process do you have in place that creates success in one place that you may not be using somewhere else?”
Generally, they answer with a reliable, repeatable process they use in one place and not the other. It may not have occurred to them that they can use the same process, slightly tweaked, to create success in any environment.
Here are some examples:
- One client uses the image of a frog on his task list at work. The “eat that frog” analogy resonates and encourages him to tackle the most challenging task first thing in the day.
- Another client uses Trello to track tasks and timelines at work but doesn’t use the same support structure for home projects.
- Another client uses a series of strategically placed timers to ensure she gets out of the house on time, yet doesn’t use the same structure to ensure she gets out of work on time.
It is not uncommon to develop routines, processes, and support structures in one place that we don’t use in another where we need the same type of support. Why is that?
We silo our experiences: work vs. home, friends vs. colleagues, Spring vs. Summer. Therefore, we think that experiences and solutions, designed for a particular place or time, will only work for that specific place and time. That’s not the case.
If you find something that works for you in one area of your life, chances are it will work equally as well in others.
What tools, processes, and support structures might you use in one area of your life that you aren’t using in another? How much more successful could you be if you used them everywhere?
I challenge you to give it a try.
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